The great divide of life is often filled with
dangerous predators, with canines sharpened and ready for the hunt. It is
therefore imperative that each one of us at this trying time understand the
word trust and how we can use to our advantage.
The word Trust means confidence in and reliance on
good qualities like—honour, bravery, fairness, truth and etcetera. This implies
that before we put our trust (confidence) on any one that person must first of
all possess two or more of the qualities mentioned above. Honour, bravery,
fairness, truth: unfortunately I must say, these are all qualities our generation
have forgotten.
Fredrick Nietzsche once said that, “Man is a rope,
tied between beast and Superman—a rope over an abyss.” The only thing that
differentiate man from beast his not just his super intelligence, it is his
humanity. Humanity is what essentially differentiates man from a beast. And humanity
is based on trust, which is in turn based on: bravery, honour, fairness, love,
good conscience etcetera, etcetera. In
other for you to know whom to trust, you must first ensure that you have
noticed at least more than two these qualities in the person. Although I must
add that Nietzsche had a different idea of his ideal man—what he termed, “Superman.”
In order for us to properly understand the concept
of trust and whom to trust, we would be taking a look at five of the most
important quality one most look for before deciding to trust anyone. They are:
·
Honesty: is defined as the quality,
condition, or characteristic of being fair, truthful and morally upright. This
is the number one and most important quality to look for in a potential
candidate you want to trust. When a person possesses this quality, you can be
sure he will die with your secret, or if for any reason at all he misplaces
that trust it will not be for selfish reasons and he would spend the rest of his
life atoning for that mistake voluntarily.
·
Loyalty: is simply complete and utter fidelity.
The next in the line to the most important qualities. The person should be a
devoted patriot—unwilling to break his vow no matter the consequences. Even if
he is captured in enemy territory. You can be sure like the good soldiers he
would rather see himself quickly dead than spill any state secret.
·
Good Conscience: is the ability to feel
guilty when wrong. This is often believed to be a weakness, especially among
Machiavellians. But I want to assure you that this is in away the most
important characteristic to look for. Why? Perhaps you’ve read countless
stories of people who were loyal to their masters for many years and latter
broke that trust for, “a higher price.” Although loyalty and honesty is good, a
person without a good conscience (with emphasis on the word ‘good’) is the very
definition of a beast. He would betray you at the slightest logical
opportunity, but someone with the fear of guilt (good conscience) would hold on
no matter what, like a patriotic patriot.
·
Fairness. If you have any intentions of
entrusting any critical position to a person, this is the next quality you must
look at for. Fairness simply means: just. The person must the righteous of
heart. Especially if that person would be in charge of anything related to
money. The temptations that are part of such positions are particularly mouth-watering
and if the person is not just, he would bow to it and embezzle the money meant
for others.
·
Love. The last of the five most
important quality. Nietzsche captured it perfectly well; he said: “When a man
is in love, he endures more than at other times—he submits to all.” Love
inspires passion, and passion in turn inspires loyalty and honesty, which in
turn expedites productivity. Simply put: the person should/ must be in love
with you and your course (it must be the both) or he would betray you at a
certain point in time.
There is no easy way. There are lots of ups and
downs on the road to trust but with enough persistence, I assure you, it is
possible. So, in summary, before you decide to trust anyone ask yourself five
simple questions:
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Is he honest?
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Is he loyal?
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Does he have a good conscience?
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His he Just?
·
Does he love me and my course?
If the answer is yes to all of the above (and it
must be yes to all of the above, else it is non-valid) then and only then can
you trust that person.
As you take this most important step in your life, I
want you to remember this: No Risk, No Reward. You have to risk being lied to,
in order to find honesty.
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Thanks once again, for finding the time to read through this long, lengthy
article. I hope it assisted you in some way. From your one and only—Prof Ezyclems,
please do have a wonderful and productive day. Remember to stay positive.
